Before we get too deep into this, I want to make sure you're prepared to read some of the realest shit you've ever heard. So if you're not ready to read and act accordingly, you might as well go back to doing what you were doing before you decided to read this blog.
Okay, so now that the disclaimer is out the way.. I really want to be real with ya'll. Like most people around the world, I work a full time job but my hours tend to run over 10 to 13 hours a day. It can be pretty demanding both physically and mentally.
So when I come home, you already know what time it is..
And since the Covid Pandemic in 2019, I haven't been the same.
Unfortunately, now I've built this routine and bad habit of doing absolutely nothing. Even on my days off, when I could be far more productive, I do nothing. Even when I know I have to practice my guitar, go grocery shopping or finish recording my album..
Even when my momma calls, along with friends and family who want to talk.. I'm either sleep or not in the mood to speak to anyone. Yes, me.. the most extroverted person in the world has now become a fucking bipolar-introvert.
And now it's really starting to take a toll on me and causing the most chaotic time of my life. When I think about it, sometimes I feel like that episode of Spongebob where all hell broke loose in his mind and caused him to go crazy:
That's how I feel sometimes.
With so much pressure from social media to be perfect, fighting through self doubt, the cost of eggs being $8 and the little bullshit that life throws at you.. that's enough to drive you crazy.
But I've figured it out.
I've figured out why most of us are unhappy.
It's simply because of the following:
1. We don't plan out our goals in the correct way.
Speaking for myself, I tend to have these grand ideas and never execute them the way I could if I simply gave myself small goals and larger goals to turn those goals into wins. Also, keep in mind.. everything doesn't have to be perfect. Sometimes doing something is better than doing nothing. As of a few weeks ago, I've gotten back on track writing my goals and knocking them one by one. So, I'm proud of myself.
2. We are more focused on THEIR expectations than our own.
With so many distractions telling us that we have to look a certain way, sound a certain way or portray ourselves in the most perfect way possible, it becomes difficult to drown out those thoughts to focus on who you truly are.
Fuck what they think.. who do you want to be?
Fuck what they say.. how do you want to do it?
Fuck what they do.. you don't have to follow it.
And the final reason why most of us are unhappy..
3. We don't give ourselves enough time to slow down, think and embrace.
Although we cannot control time, we can however control how much mental time we spend sitting in our sorrows, feeling pressured to do the next thing and so forth. It's okay to slow down sometimes and enjoy what you've already put in overtime for. Take that time to vacation, call a friend, go for a walk, put down your phone and enjoy "the fruits of your labor."
Your happiness is ultimately your responsibility. Now, everything mentioned in this blog may not apply to you. You may be the most happiness person on this planet, working and doing everything you've always wanted to do and just happy.
That's phenomenal. But a lot of us are still trying to figure it out and that's okay.
I think I've mentioned this before in a previous blog but in my favorite speech of all time, Jenifer Lewis said, "you do your best and you leave the rest.. don't let life drive you crazy, you drive that mother fucka crazy."
So, what are you going to do?
Make your mind up that everyday you're going to have an amazing day. Tell yourself out loud.
I wake up in the morning, I say a prayer. I tell myself how amazing I am. I thank God for another day, ask for guidance and I keep on rolling with the punches. Don't wait for something or someone to come along and make you happy because guess what..
It. may. never. come.
Whatever you do, please choose happy.
Again, thank ya'll so much for supporting and reading. So much more on the way including my album that I've been working on for over a year now.
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Take care of yourself,